![]() Be sure that your middle child feels she "belongs" and is a significant part of your family.Īll children share a fundamental need to feel significant in their families. When children feel in their bones that we delight in them, they feel valued and loved. ![]() Make an effort to notice who she is, and let her know that you "see" her and treasure her, exactly as she is. Not agree that the youngest gets special treatment, but your child needs to know that you hear her when she tells you that's what she thinks. Be sure that you acknowledge her feelings even when you disagree with them. For instance, you may But if not, or if you see your middle child struggling, consider that more connection with Maybe that relationship is already super-close. ![]() Put extra effort into your relationship with your middle child. What can you do to prevent "middle child syndrome"? 1. Their unique position as the only girl or boy assures them a feeling of uniqueness that middle children who have siblings of the same Interestingly, when the middle child is the only boy or the only girl, they don’t seem to experience “middle child syndrome.” Apparently Their middle child's defiance, rather than realizing that it's a cry for connection. Unfortunately, that often annoys parents, who throw up their hands in dismay at The combination of less parental responsiveness and the “identity crisis” of not having a specific role in the family can make middle childrenįeel less valued, so they may act out to get attention. The youngest gets more attention and fewer expectations. Oldest gets more privileges and more celebration for new achievements. Middle children may also struggle with an “identity crisis” of not having a specific role in the family. They get less support, they often develop a fierce independence and are less open to their parents' influence. While the oldest impressesĪnd challenges the parents with all those "firsts" and the youngest is indulged, the middle child is often expected just to cope. Researchers found that there was no association between personality traits such as risk-taking, emotional stability, conscientiousness and patience, and the gender of siblings.Not only are middle children babied for a shorter period of time, they get less parental attention at every stage. The study, which analysed date from more than 80,000 adults from nine countries, also found that the idea that a girl is more likely to be a tomboy if she has many brothers is unsupported by research, and that the gender of our siblings has little influence. New research by academics from the University of Leipzig says that being the middle child “plays no major role” in shaping ones personality. Turns out we are probably right to write it off as a concept. And now he is one of two middle children, so what does that mean? ![]() I’ve always been sceptical, too, as my own middle child seemed to have all the supposed traits of a middle child before he became one. He dismisses any notion that as the middle child of three, he was excluded, ignored or neglected or that he’s by nature more insecure, needy and demanding due to “middle child syndrome”. My husband, a middle child, has always sworn his position in the family pecking order has had no influence on his personality. Researchers have found middle child syndrome to be a myth
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